The first place I start with clients and in my programs
is with values.
The intention of values is to provide both a foundation and an anchor for all of your business decisions.
The values that I center in my business are
integrity, accountability, authenticity and sovereignty.
They are rooted in an Intersectional Feminist, justice-informed praxis and under-pin all of my business decisions, relationships, projects and products.
Integrity
Integrity is defined as “a state of being whole and undivided.” In business, I believe that integrity reflects doing what you say in congruence with what you stand for. Sometimes this means having uncomfortable conversations, sometimes this means upholding a boundary which then negates having a conversation. The means by which I uphold integrity is through feeling in moral congruence with myself. That may mean that a decision I make or a stance I take does not reflect your own values or beliefs. I am more committed to feeling ethically aligned with my actions than being in agreement with others. Every action made by myself and my team has been carefully considered to be in integrity for us.
Accountability
As an imperfect human in an imperfect society, I cannot guarantee that I will never cause harm. As a white, cis-gender, disabled queer person, I make an attempt to reflect critically on my privilege and actively pursue education and study that supports my ability to be a facilitator for people from all walks of life. However, in circumstances where I may cause harm due to my privilege, I value accountability in place of safety. The groups I create are often diverse, and due to either privilege or trauma, there have been circumstances where microaggressions and misunderstandings have taken place both between participants and between myself and a client. Accountability means we will have a conversation, and ramifications will be taken to ensure repair. This applies specifically to my clients and program participants. Not strangers on the internet that I do not know.
Authenticity
Part of the world I hope to co-create with my clients is one where diversity of thought and expression are celebrated. As a sex-positive, queer, polyamorous, radical feminist I do not sanction parts of my self-expression to be palatable or “professional” by conventional standards. My business exists to deconstruct conventional standards, and also to elevate them. As such, my public platforms are both professional teaching spaces and reflections of who I am as a person. They include my personal opinions, shares from my life, and an unfiltered view of who I am. If that is something that makes others uncomfortable, they shouldn’t hire me. Authenticity is an intentional choice and a large part of having a business online.
Sovereignty
As a collaborator and thought partner with my clients, I maintain that they are always the best authority on their own lives and businesses. Every assignment I give or piece of feedback I deliver is an invitation. I trust my clients to run what I say through their own internal system of discernment and critically judge whether it is for them or not. As coach or consultant, I am essentially a hired contractor. To presume to know better than my clients about their own lives can result in a hierarchy that is unhealthy for the clients’ goals and creates codependency in the coaching relationship that I reject. Yes, I have a skillset that you may not, and a lot of insight that will help to guide you…but you are the one who will live the impact of the changes you make in our work together, and I want to protect your authority in that over even you getting results.